024: Kink 101 Understanding Alternative Sexuality

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russell stambaugh

Natasha Helfer Parker interviews Dr. Russell Stambaugh, PhD, DST, CSSP, author of The Elephant in the Hot Tub: Kink in Context blog.  They cover a variety of topics including the definition of “kink,” how cultural context has affected sexual norms throughout history, and where we stand today as far as types of alternative sexuality (i.e. different forms of BDSM, cross-dressing, non-monogamy, and more). It is interesting to note that many who would consider themselves “heteronormative” have interests that would be considered “alternative” and that the kink community has much to offer as far as being ahead of the curve on the appropriate communication and use of consent.

Couples coming in with concerns around alternative sexuality, are usually facing issues where one partner finds something sexually arousing that their partner does not. How are they to reconcile these types of differences?  And how do we stay away from shame or pathology (“your’e broken”) types of approaches, which end up making worsening the situation for all involved? Great and informative podcast, whether you are attempting to negotiate some of these sexual differences in your own sexual relationship, or wanting to understand human sexuality at a more complex level.

Dr. Staumbaugh is a clinical psychologist in private practice. He is a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists, and has maintained a Diplomate in Sex Therapy since 2005. He has served in AASECT leadership since 2000, including service as a Director 2004-2009. In June, 2015, he was awarded the Distinguished Service to AASECT Award for the second time. He has chaired the AASECT AltSex Special Interest Group from 2011-15. He has been studying sexual deviance, sexual variation, and the psychology of sexuality for 33 years.

Resources mentioned during podcast:

Elephant in the Hot Tub: Kink in Context

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom



Thank you to Jeff Meyers for the intro and Peter & Mary Danzig of Otter Creek Duo for the concluding bumper music.


Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFT, CST, CSTS can be reached at natashaparker.org and runs an online practice, Symmetry Solutions, which focuses on helping families and individuals with faith concerns, sexuality and mental health. She hosts the Mormon Mental Health and Mormon Sex Info Podcasts, is the current past president of the Mormon Mental Health Association and runs a sex education program, Sex Talk with Natasha. She has over 20 years of experience working with primarily an LDS/Mormon clientele.

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