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Natasha Helfer Parker continues her interview with Scott and his wife. There is a quick review of some of the shaming themes covered in Part 1, and then they move into how this perceived problem with pornography and masturbation played into the relational dynamics between the couple as they met, courted, and became married. They cover what it was like to start having sex, expectations they had that were not met, difficulties Scott’s wife had achieving orgasm, and the meaning ruts that started developing which exacerbated intimacy and sexuality problems both individually and relationally. They discuss the difference between conditional love (based on behavioral expectations) and unconditional love (based on the intimacy of partnered acceptance). And how difficult it was for them to know how to start conversations around these topics.
Resources Mentioned During Podcast:
She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner
Everybody Loves Raymond: The Power of No
Thank you to Jeff Meyers for the intro and Peter & Mary Danzig of Otter Creek Duo for the concluding bumper music.
Natasha Helfer, LCMFT, CST, CST-S can be reached at natashahelfer.com and runs an online practice, Symmetry Solutions, which focuses on helping families and individuals with faith concerns, sexuality and mental health. She hosts the Mormon Mental Health and Mormon Sex Info Podcasts, is the current past president of the Mormon Mental Health Association . She has over 20 years of experience working with primarily an LDS/Mormon clientele.